Anti-Bully

A lot of people ask, "What is bullying?"
Bullying is the use of superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.
Bullying is a widespread and serious problem that can happen anywhere.  It is not a phase children have to go through, it is not "just messing around," and it is not something to grow out of.  Bullying can cause serious and lasting harm.
Justforrlaughs has gone one more step to take a stand for something that has been happening all over the world, we want to give kids and teens  a voice to stand up and say "I WANT IT TO END," there are some that are in fear to say whats going on but we are here to talk and listen.

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Types of Bullying Bullying can take many forms. 

Examples include

• Verbal: name-calling, making offensive remarks, or joking about a person's religion, gender, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, or the way they look. For example, if there was a group of kids who made fun of another kid because he couldn't run as fast as everyone else, it would be an example of verbal bullying. 46.5% of all bullying in schools is the verbal type. Verbal aggression is when a bully teases someone. It can also include a bully making verbal threats of violence or aggression against someone's personal property.
  
• Physical: ny physical contact that would hurt or injure a person like hitting, kicking, punching, etc. Taking something that belongs to someone else and destroying it would also be considered a type of physical bullying. For example, if someone was walking down the street and someone came up to them and shoved them to the ground, that would be physical bullying. In elementary and middle schools, 30.5% of all bullying is physical.
  
• Cyberbullying: done by sending messages, pictures, or information using electronic media, computers (email & instant messages), or cell phones (text messaging & voicemail). For instance, if you sent a picture of a snake in an email to a person because you know that they are afraid of snakes, that would be an example of cyberbullying. According to a survey done in 2003 only 4% of bullying is listed as "other types" and this would include cyberbullying. Even though this number seems small, the growth of this type of bullying is going up fast because of the spread of technology around the world.
  
• Intimidation:  when a bully threatens someone else and frightens that person enough to make him or her do what the bully wants.
  
•  Indirect bullying: includes spreading rumors or stories about someone, telling others about something that was told to you in private, and excluding others from groups. An example would be if you started a rumor that a boy in your class likes playing with dolls, and if the reason that you made up the story was because you thought it was funny. This would be indirect bullying. Indirect bullying accounts for 18.5% of all bullying
  
• Social alienation: is when a bully excludes someone from a group on purpose. It also includes a bully spreading rumors, and also making fun of someone by pointing out their differences.
  

Tips to deal with bullying 

If you have been bullied, it may affect you in many ways.  You may not want to go to school or may find it hard to do your homework.  You may be losing sleep, eating more or less than usual, having headaches or stomachaches, or getting sick more often. Know that you do not have to feel this way.

Your Feelings are Important

• Do not blame yourself. It is easy to question whether you are the problem.  But no matter what someone says or does, you should not be ashamed of who you are or what you feel.
• Be proud of who you are.   No matter what they say, there are wonderful things about you.  Keep those in mind instead of the disrespectful messages you get from the people who are bullying you.
• Do not be afraid to get help. Sometimes it helps to just talk to someone who is not personally involved.  Teachers, counselors, and others are there to help.  Seeing a counselor or other professional does not mean there is something wrong with you. 

What to Do When You Are Being Bullied

The first priority is always your safety.  Here are some strategies for you to consider:

• Tell them to stop.  
• Walk away. Do not let them get to you. If you walk away or ignore them, they will not get that satisfaction. 
• Protect yourself. Sometimes you cannot walk away. If you are being physically hurt, protect yourself so that you can get away. 
• Tell an adult you trust. Talking to someone could help you figure out the best ways to deal with the problem.  In some cases, adults need to get involved for the bullying to stop. 
• Find a safe place. Go somewhere that you feel safe and secure like the library, a favorite teacher’s classroom, or the office.
• Stick together. Stay with a group or individuals that you trust. 
• Find opportunities to make new friends. Explore your interests and join school or community activities such as sports, drama, or art. Volunteer or participate in community service.

Bullying & Homosexuality:

In a 2007 study, 86% of LGBT students said that they had experienced harassment at school during the previous year. (Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network -- GLSEN)

Research indicates that LGB youth may be more likely to think about and attempt suicide than heterosexual teens. (GLSEN)
In a 2005 survey, students said their peers were most often bullied because of their appearance, but the next top reason was because of actual or perceived sexual orientation and gender expression. ("From Teasing to Torment: School Climate of America" -- GLSEN and Harris Interactive)

According to the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network 2007 National School Climate Survey of more than 6,000 students.

• Nearly 9 out of 10 LGBT youth reported being verbally harassed at school in the past year because of their sexual orientation
• Nearly half (44.1 percent) reported being physically harassed
• About a quarter (22.1 percent) reported being physically assaulted.
• Nearly two-thirds (60.8 percent) who experienced harassment or assault never reported the incident to the school
• Of those who did report the incident, nearly one-third (31.1 percent) said the school staff did nothing in response

Room counselor's  

These are a list of the Ordo Inc. counselor's that are in the room to help you and listen you you if you are having a bad day, or something at home is wrong and more and they and the whole Ordo Inc staff will try to help you or get you help the best way we can. In the room all counselor's have "Consuasor" at the start of their name. 

Consuasor / Counseling Staff
Emily Abeyta  (O-5),  Loriana Cassarino (O-4), Steve (O-3),  Iona (O-3),  Jacob, 

Ordo Inc. Tinychat room

Bullycide:

Suicide remains among the leading causes of death of children under 14. And in most cases, the young people die from hanging. (AAS)

A new review of studies from 13 countries found signs of an apparent connection between bullying, being bullied, and suicide. (Yale School of Medicine)

Suicide rates among children between the ages of 10 & 14 are very low, but are "creeping up." (Ann Haas, Director of the Suicide Prevention Project at the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention)

The suicide rate among young male adults in Massachusetts rose 28 percent in 2007. However, that does not reflect deaths among teenagers and students Carl's age. (Massachusetts Dept. of Public Health, in a report released April 8, 2009)

• Since 2002, at least 15 schoolchildren ages 11 to 14 have committed suicide in Massachusetts. Three of them were Carl's age. ("Constantly Bulled, He Ends His Life at Age 11," by Milton J. Valencia. The Boston Globe, April 20, 2009)

• Suicide rates among 10 to 14-year-olds have grown more than 50 percent over the last three decades. (The American Association of Suicidology, AAS)

• In 2005 (the last year nationwide stats were available), 270 children in the 10-14 age group killed themselves. (AAS)


According to new bullying statistics these are the five top worst states to live in to avoid bullies in K12:


1 California

2 New York

3 Illinois

4 Pennsylvania

5 Washington 



Ordo, Inc. is helping teens being bullied or are having thoughts about suicide.

Story Collector:  storiecollector.tumblr.com  This link is a safe place that you can tell your stories of bullying, a secret, home life, boyfriend/girlfriend drama, and so much more. all stories and secrets  told are anonymous or if you want to use your name on tumblr you can. Please pass this to friends, we are here to listen and help.  

Other Anti-bullying links

(NBPC)

Stop Bullying: Speak Up

Bully Movie

Defeat The Label

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